06 August 2008

Cheating Gets it Faster

Current mood: adventurous

Live a life less ordinary
Live a life extraordinary with me
My face had said too much
Before our hands could even touch
To greet a 'hello'
So much for going slow.
~ "Life Less Ordinary" by Carbon Leaf

There are people whom when you first meet – the passion is instantaneous. Sometimes you feel drawn together by some unidentifiable force – and sometimes you are so repelled by the person that you have 'hate at first sight'. When drawn to them, it can feel as if you are meant to be together; as friends or lovers or kindred spirits. For some reason, everything just clicks immediately. It generally cannot be explained – then, there is the opposite – where the animosity between you is so strong that the mere thought of sitting in the same room with the person is nauseating. It may be because they remind you of someone – or just a 'gut feeling' you get.

These passionate relationships begin with a bang – then tend to fizzle out without provocation. Weeks; months, or even years down the road – all of a sudden, you realize that nothing is feeding the passion anymore. It's just finished. Apathy (or resentment) sets in and the rest is history. Divide up the CDs or photographs or borrowed clothes. And walk your separate ways before one of you kills the other out of boredom.

There is a lesson in this – if you feel an instant connection with someone – take advantage of it while you can – because it will end. Go to Sin City – find Elvis – bathe in a whirlpool shaped like a martini glass – and live it up. No reason you cannot have mind-blowing *edited for less mature readers* for a few days, weeks, whatever. Just know that when it ends – you will most likely need a good attorney – and possibly some Penicillin. You may also need to change your name and citizenship.

This is why they say "What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas." By the end of the trip, one of you won't want to recall the relationship or the memories. And the other is most likely pissed off and ready to wreck havoc on your happy, little life. Always use a pseudonym and a prophylactic. Both could keep you from being buried alive in the Nevada desert due to an 'emotional misunderstanding'.

Then, there are the unexpected relationships which begin with hesitancy and slowly evolve into something amazing. I look at my 5 closest relationships – and I realize that based on first impressions – we most likely would not be friends. D/BFF and I discuss this a lot – because she saw me as Mrs. Suburban Soccer Mom who had nothing in common with her. All of our interactions for over a year were work-based and never went beyond "hello, how are you?" And through happenstance, our paths converged to form a friendship which we'll still have in 20 years. Slow and steady really does win the race, I think.

PERSONAL NOTE: *nickname omitted to protect the not-so-innocent* -- take me to Vegas.

Eidetic Vision

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