Chances are we'll find two destinations
Chances run away from me
Still chances are more than expectations
~ “Chances” by Five for Fighting
Yesterday I built some garage shelves. They were not overly complicated; but, they did take me a while to build. I had built three of the four shelves when NBF arrived. He walked in the garage and startled me (I was listening to my iPod). I was barefoot; sweating; and my hair was falling out of the clip. He volunteered to help me finish the final shelf. I was in a hurry and gratefully accepted his offer.
This is where the Mars/Venus differences kicked in. For some reason, any time a male volunteers to help a female do something ‘boyish’, such as building shelves, he has to take over the project. NBF is definitely male and he behaved precisely how I expected. I became the assistant shelf-builder while he attempted to use that ‘Y’ chromosome to his advantage. He even went as far as to say, ‘Babe, you should have waited and I could have helped you build all of them.’
Now I completely understand that he was being sweet. I took it as he intended and appreciated his thoughtfulness and willingness to give up his time to build shelves with me. Still, did he not see the 3 shelves I had already built? They were standing there; quite sturdy I may add, in the back of the garage. I will acknowledge that it definitely went faster with two people – but sometimes, it would be nice to have a guy look at what was done while he wasn’t present and be amazed!
On the other hand, I like it when a man wants to take care of things for me. Hell, I don’t like to open doors on my own – so a guy offering to build furniture that he won’t even be using is spectacular. I believe the key to pushing through the Venus/Mars smokescreen is to assume positive intent.
Moving to a new topic, my insurance company has agreed to pay for my stolen car. They mailed a check to my lien holder today. This means that by the time my new car arrives, the old one will be paid off. I have already secured a new car loan, which is a good thing – though I wish that I could have just used the old loan, as the terms were a little better. Oh well. At least it is being handled. Beggars cannot be choosers; and I am definitely a beggar without a car.
Now, a quick shout-out for Joe Cool, everyone’s favourite Honda salesman:
Joe Mancuso @ O'Daniel Honda is the only car salesman from whom I will ever buy another car!
In August 2008, I bought a brand new Honda Civic from Joe. Not only did I get a great deal; but he has kept in touch with me, verifying that I am happy with the car, etc. I also use the O'Daniel Service Department, who are fantastic and professional.
Due to a car thief with bad driving skills, I am now back in the market for a new car, and Joe has been amazing in helping me find the exact car I want. I could not ask for better service. While I was not in the car when it crashed into a reinforcement pole; based on the damage done to the vehicle, and the fact that the thief walked away from the scene never to be heard from again, it appears that Honda builds a pretty safe car!
Buy a Honda from O'Daniel Honda -- ask for Joe Mancuso -- you will be so happy that you did!
78th & Dodge, Omaha, NE 68114
or visit them online at: www.odanielhonda.com
PERSONAL NOTE: Hope you did great on your job interview!
CONFIDENTIAL NOTE: I miss you so very much!