You can have me when you want and
Lips are sweet when you are talking
Yeah you make me want you madly
And you've really got me going
~ “Just Like Chocolate” by The Dollyrots
In the not so distant past, I received an email that I took as a personal attack on my work performance. I responded with the level of concern I felt was appropriate. Luckily for me, this dialogue created a coaching opportunity that was identified by someone who knows my work persona well. He asked me to read both emails aloud in the tones of voice I thought they were conveying. He then read me the same emails using different tones. And holy moly, I sounded like a be-yatch when he read my email response back to me. Granted, he fully acknowledged that he knew I did not intend my words in that tone – but he also warned me that email correspondence takes on the tone of the recipient’s brain. Therefore, if a situation appears to be ‘heated’ or ‘strained’ he suggested the best course of action is to pick up the phone or meet face-to-face.
We went round and round with the discussion because I prefer email correspondence as it is easier to clearly state out the details without getting caught up in the emotion. After careful consideration and perhaps a little soul searching, I have come to the conclusion that I agree with my coach’s assessment when dealing with sane and logical people.
Unfortunately, some people are crazy bullies with illogical, personal agendas. Those people suck! If you have any suggestions for dealing with difficult people, please don’t hesitate to let me know.
Adding fodder for the fire, I started school this week. I will save my assessment for a later date – but I can say with the utmost confidence that I am not the least intelligent person in my Business Law II class. My faith in Darwinism decreases exponentially with each class that I attend.
That is all.
PERSONAL NOTE: Will you arrive already? Geez!
CONFIDENTIAL NOTE: Looking forward to the Opera.